Harville Hendrix
We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship.
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There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you.
Do not be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment.
Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish. A little knowledge that acts is worth infinitely more than much knowledge that is idle.
Only after you challenge your biases and stereotypes -- what Francis Bacon called the 'idols which beset men's minds' --can you help others do the same.
Do not follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.
Wisdom is not like money to be tied up and hidden.
You can't make an omelet without breaking eggs.
I love thee, I love but thee with a love that shall not die till the sun grows cold and the stars grow old.
In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities.
You haven't failed until you quit trying.
If you can imagine it, you can achieve it. If you can dream it, you can become it.
I don't think much of a man who is not wiser today than he was yesterday.
Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.
Tell everyone what you want to do and someone will want to help you do it.
Most people have no idea of the giant capacity we can immediately command when we focus all of our resources on mastering a single area of our lives.
Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
If you judge people, you have no time to love them.
The only place where your dream becomes impossible is in your own thinking.
Inspiration and genius -- one and the same.
A part of kindness consists in loving people more than they deserve.
In any moment of decision the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.
Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving. They make mistakes, but they don't quit.
Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man's character, give him power.
If A is a success in life, then A equals x plus y plus z. Work is x ; y is play ; and z is keeping your mouth shut.
A lie has speed, but truth has endurance.
Ideas attract money, time, talents, skills, energy and other complementary ideas that will bring them into reality.
Your self-beliefs either support or undermine you.
Results come from constantly applying what you know, not just knowing.
A dream is a wish your heart makes.
As a man thinketh in his heart so is he.
Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity can not survive.
Only those who risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.
The most elusive and desired quality of leadership is vision. Vision is the perfume of the mind.
Your level of brilliance will determine the size of your opportunities in life.
It is best to love wisely, no doubt, but to love foolishly is better than not to be able to love at all.
That first peak is the best place to pause and look back, to see if you took the easiest route, to learn the lessons from the first climb. And it is the best place to examine the terrain ahead, to change your plans and goals, to take a deep breath and begin climbing again.
Well done is better than well said.
When you work, work, and when you play, play, dont get the two mixed up
You could unwrap a Fudgesicle at the first light and never touch the brake lever till you threw away the stick.
The function of leadership is to produce more leaders, not more followers.
Little minds are tamed and subdued by misfortune, but great minds rise above them.
When fate hands us a lemon, let's try to make a lemonade.
Only passions, great passions, can elevate the soul to great things.
The path of the just is as the shining light, that shineth more and more unto the perfect day.
Those who dream by day are cognizant of many things which escape those who dream only by night.
Our goals can only be reached through a vehicle of a plan, in which we must fervently believe, and upon which we must vigorously act. There is no other route to success.
Never live in the past but always learn from it.
Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavor.
You can't express every feeling that you have every moment that you have them.
Do not wait for ideal circumstances, they will never come, nor for the best opportunities.
The time to repair the roof is when the sun is shining.
There is one quality which one must possess to win, and that is definiteness of purpose, the knowledge of what one wants, and a burning desire to possess it.
The rays of happiness, like those of light, are colorless when unbroken.
And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.
Fear is the parent of cruelty.
What hump ?
Leaders are people who are able to express themselves fully, they know who they are, what their strengths and weaknesses are, and how to fully deploy their strengths and compensate for their weaknesses. They also know what they want, why they want it, and how to communicate what they want to others, in order to gain compensation and support. Finally, they know how to achieve their goals. The key to full self-expression is understanding one's self and the world, and the key to understanding is learning -- from one's own life and experience.
Who indeed can harm you if you are committed deeply to doing what is right ?
A gentle hand may lead even an elephant by a single hair.
The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don't finally meet somewhere, they're in each other all along.
I am convinced that He ( God ) does not play dice.
To live is like to love, all reason is against it, and all healthy instinct for it.
Man is not made for defeat. A man can be destroyed, but not defeated.
The key to truth is the next deed, and this key opens the door if one does what one has to do in such a way that the meaning of the action here finds its fulfillment. Thus truth in the world of man is not to be found as the content of knowledge, but only as human existence. One does not express it, one does not perceive it, but one lives it, and receives it as life.
Freedom requires the capacity to accept, bear and live constructively with anxiety. I refer of course to the normal anxiety all of us experience at every step in our psychological growth as well as in this upset contemporary world. To be free means to face and bear anxiety, to run away from anxiety means automatically to surrender one's freedom.
Vivacity, leadership, must be had, and we are not allowed to be nice in choosing. We must fetch the pump with dirty water, if clean can not be had.
It is literally true that you can succeed best and quickest by helping others to succeed.
There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as if everything is.
The way for a young man to rise is to improve himself in every way he can, never suspecting that anybody wishes to hinder him.
The buck stops here.
Reality is the leading cause of stress amongst those in touch with it. I can take it in small doses, but as a lifestyle I find it too confining.
Be happy. It's one way of being wise.
We cannot really love anybody with whom we never laugh.
Failures don't plan to fail, they fail to plan.
Let he him who would be moved to convince others, be first moved to convince himself.
Once you have mastered time, you will understand how true it is that most people overestimate what they can accomplish in a year - and underestimate what they can achieve in a decade !
There is no happiness except in the realization that we have accomplished something.
Ultimately we know deeply that the other side of every fear is a freedom.
Kind words conquer.
Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement, nothing can be done without hope and confidence.
The point is that you can't be too greedy.
To be able to say how much love, is love but little.
Women wish to be loved not because they are pretty, or good, or well bred, or graceful, or intelligent, but because they are themselves.
The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good.
To gain more abundance a person needs more skills and needs to be more creative and cooperative.
They say you were shot in the tabloids.
Stand up to your obstacles and do something about them. You will find that they haven't half the strength you think they have.
Above all, beware of compromises. I do not mean that you are to get into antagonism with anybody, but you have to hold on to your own principles in weal or woe and never adjust them to others "fads" through the greed of getting supporters.
When you come to the edge of all the light you know and are about to step off into the darkness of the unknown, faith is knowing one of two things will happen. There will be something solid to stand on or you will be taught to fly.
How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.
If you aren't good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you'll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren't even giving to yourself.
Love is the immortal flow of energy that nourishes, extends and preserves. It's eternal goal is life.
Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.
People who exercise their embryonic freedom day after day, little by little, expand that freedom. People who do not will find that it withers until they are literally 'being lived'. They are acting out scripts written by parents, associates and society.
This was love at first sight, love everlasting, a feeling unknown, unhoped for, unexpected in so far as it could be a matter of conscious awareness, it took entire possession of him, and he understood, with joyous amazement, that this was for life.
Reduce your plan to writing. The moment you complete this, you will have definitely given concrete form to the intangible desire.
Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life.
We are all in the gutter but some of us are looking at the stars.
Houston, we have a problem.
You can not step twice into the same river, for other waters are continually flowing on.